Okay you know what I was just gonna reblog this and say nothing but you know what, I’m pissed off and you wanna know why?
Ted is a Nice Guy. I don’t mean a nice man, no. I mean the motherfucking “Nice Guy” who moans and complains about how women just won’t flock to him and be exactly who he expects of them. He knew from the beginning Robin wanted to focus on her career before marriage. He knew from the beginning she didn’t want kids. She rejected him time after time before they dated the first time. She rejected him time after time after that, for nine goddamn fucking years. His refusal to stop pursuing her, and accept she did not fucking love her, destroyed his relationship with Victoria TWICE. He is the whiny high school teenager bitching because the popular girl he obsesses over just isn’t into him. He is the goddamn Nice Guy, the kind whose every action, every so-called kind deed is done purely out of trying to get Robin to date him.
Robin motherfucking Scherbatsky was an independent woman who not only relied on herself, but expected the men she wanted to be with to be independent and rely on himself, as well. She was career-minded and strong and independent and self-reliant. Those were the traits that doomed her and Ted.
In this gifset we see that Ted did not respect Robin for who she was. He didn’t want her to be self-reliant—he wanted her to rely on him. He’s like so many men out there, so many Nice Guys. Baby, let me take care of you while you put me before everything else, You’re too independent, Robin. I need you to need me, I need you to rely on me. The reason they didn’t work out was because they both wanted and needed different things in relationships, and that’s okay—what isn’t okay is that instead of accepting that, Ted blames her. Tells her that SHE is the reason why they broke up, and something about her is WRONG. He insults her, tells her that her fundamental personality is wrong, and that she is why their relationship failed; that they they just aren’t compatible, no; because she is broken.
She is so upset at this she goes to another ex. He’s the Jerk, you know; the guy who all the Nice Guys in the world call The Asshole. And you know what? You know what this Asshole does? He comforts her, he compliments her. He tells her that those traits, teh traits she’s been belittled and taunted over, the traits that make her broken, the reason why She Can’t Find A Man, are what make her wonderful. Barney loved her for her insecurities, and he supported her independence. He supported her self-reliance. In one scene, this Asshole prove to be far more accepting and mature than the so-called Nice Guy.
So who do she end up with?
I really don’t give a shit to reblog it again.
I have never seen something more true than this.
Ted is the single worst character in the entire show. I stopped caring about Ted around the proposal to Stella, and since then I watched the show for all the “supporting” characters.
Ted is not only incredibly hypocritical, he is vain, pompous and egocentric. These are character traits put there intentionally by the writers, and pointed out by them frequently too. And does Ted ever grow from these experiences? No. He says he does, but his going back to Robin every time he breaks up with another woman who dared to (gasp) not be one hundred percent perfectly manic-pixie-dream-girl ideal demonstrates that he can never change.
I think it’s ironic that they dedicated an entire episode to pointing out that the difference between a romantic gesture and a creepy gesture is how much the receiver is into the giver, when the entire show is, now that we know the ending, about a guy who goes on one date with a woman, decides he’s in love with her and then obsesses, harangues, and continually wears away at that woman’s life until there are no options left to her but him.
When I say I hate the ending, I hate the way it ended, and that Barney and Robin should have been together, it’s not because of shipping or any fan side of me. It’s because it completely changes the message of the entire show, from one about finding the right person for you and accepting them as they are to one about never letting something as trifling as another person’s free will or autonomy get in the way of what you’ve decided is best for both of you.